Crank Up Your S*x Drive



You've tried lighting candles and slipping into something lacy, but let's face it: After a long day it sometimes feels darn near impossible to get in the mood. "Women do so much juggling, they can put their s*xuality on the back burner and lose that connection with their sensual side," notes Marianne Brandon, PhD, author of Reclaiming Desire.

But it's not a lost cause, she adds: "By taking a few deliberate steps, you can reconnect with your sensuality."

Tune in and turn on: Women who regularly focus on what they see, smell, feel, and hear report higher levels of arousal and s*xual satisfaction, reports a study in the Journal of s*xual Medicine.

To get in the habit, choose one snack a day to eat thoughtfully, suggests lead researcher Lori Brotto, PhD. Note the food's texture, taste, and aroma, as well as the emotions it evokes. By practicing being more present, you'll be better able to plug into the sights, sounds, smells, and sensations that get you hot and bothered, from the smell of his skin to the feel of the crisp cotton sheets on your body.

We're guessing your daily dialogue with your man revolves around decidedly uns*xy things, like who's calling the cable guy. So even the slightest allusion to racy thoughts can put you in a more passionate state of mind, notes Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD, a relationship expert in New York City. Shoot him a text from your desk that hints at some s*xy moment: "Remember the time we did it in the kitchen?"

"This sort of flirty texting puts s*x on both of your radars, and builds anticipation for it," Fulbright says.